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If you are more interested in others life, then, who will be in yours?

Look at that guy he is such a pathetic looser!

Look at that girl, Doesn't she belong in the zoo?

Mr. X is such an egoistic person, he can't stand a simple NO.

Miss Y knows nothing about her job, how come she is still in the business?

There is definitely some intention behind his acts, How can anyone be so kind?

Is he really good, or is he pretending to be good?

How come he/she is successful and I am not? He/She must be a people pleaser for sure!


How often do we jump to conclusions like these?

I would say every now and then.

We as humans have made it our life's goal to be more interested in others lives than our own, and it is one of the core reasons why we all feel lagging behind at most of the times.

Gossiping has been credited as the driving force behind the development of languages in the book- Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari, and I think it is true. 

The pleasure that we all get discussing other people's problem trumps any other daily pleasures that we enjoy on day to day basis. 

But, we don't realize that in a way we are corrupting our brain and consciousness day in and day out by feeding it the negative emotions, by telling it that people around us are more important than ourselves, and over the period of time, these contexts and talks keep piling up in our heads only to alter our state of existence and thought process to deviate in the negative direction for forever.

In the book "Think Like A Monk" Jay Shetty talks about an incident when he returned from his 3 months long stay at an Ashram and was interning at a finance firm.

He mentions that while his colleagues were indulged in the act of gossiping and discussing others lives, he felt a disconnect right away, it was not his core nature now, he was looking at things from a broader perspective and more importantly he knew that more than knowing ' what others were doing wrong/right and how can they make it work', it was more important to know what 'He was doing with his life and how can he make it better'.

It is an easy thing to say than practice in real life, but it definitely is the right way which can lead us to real joyful experiences.

The day we rise above our own petty mindsets and start looking for good rather than bad in others, our life will become such an impactful and joyous event that we will be able to experience the Bliss, that we often hear and talk about.

So next time when you talk to or about someone, make sure that you pay attention towards what is it that you are feeding your brain.

What and How you talk, is What you will eventually become.


Live Laugh Love💓


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