Don't try too hard to fit in, let things fall in place with time!

Trying too hard to fit-in in any group, community, society or network can often lead to a feeling of being left alone. It can also be pointed as one of the reasons behind people feeling lonely or unacceptable at times.

But, think it this way, Resistance is a very natural phenomenon, everything in nature resists change at every level. Change can only be brought upon with gradual and positive efforts, that's is the only way, or else it will feel like an act of suppression or intrusion.

When we try too hard to fit in, we make ourselves vulnerable to others opinions, we do things which don't actually align well with our core nature, we try too hard for others to like us that at times we even start compromising our self esteem and self-belief for it.

This act of getting validation from others and seeking a sense of belonging is what makes us feel lonely and sad when the expected feelings are not reciprocated from the other end.

A few things which I can think of, which might help you in feeling good about yourself and others around you are:

1. First, don't speak or do things in order to impress someone, do and say things which comes naturally to you, it will help others recognize your true nature, and eventually people who will vibe well with your nature will gradually become a part of your life.

2. Don't take criticism too seriously. Take it with a pinch of salt, try to use it to learn and make yourself better, but don't beat yourself about it. Criticisms can act as the right push needed for people to succeed in life, but only if they are not taken as an attack against them.

3. Understand that you cannot make everyone happy. This is really important, If you do things and expect that everyone will come and praise you and sing laurels for you, then it is a grave mistake. Whatever you do in life, you can never make everyone happy that is the rule of nature you can say. Not even Buddha or Gandhi ji could make everyone happy despite being pure in their hearts and emotions.

4. Give yourself time, don't put a clock over everything. Let things pan out naturally, don't force yourself too much to reach somewhere, at times sailing through is the only way forward. "Time is the best medicine" it can mend the broken bonds and even heal the deepest wounds, let time play its part, while you focus on doing your duties diligently.

Let life happen, don't try to make it happen too fast or slow it down at will, let it run its full course at its own pace, that is the only way of being eternally peaceful.

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