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Yes! being good is tiring and frustrating, but it's the only way of being good.

At times being good to people can be really tiring and frustrating, even more, when people don't understand you or your emotions and keep on judging and furling negativity towards you in return.

It is the real test that one has to pass, because when people are good to you, you will be good to them, but if you are good to others even when they are being totally absurd and negative in their behavior, one day it will make them change their perspective and see the goodness in you, just wait for that moment, because sooner or later it will arrive.

As we had discussed before as well, that negativity doesn't need will power or force to exist in our lives, it is our natural tendency to get attracted towards negative thoughts and actions because of our mind's self defense mechanism which has evolved from being hunter gathers to living in a social environment.

our mind's tendency is to clench to a negative thought and build a story around it, it helps the brain keep this body safe which happens to be its residing place. Mind is very selfish in its nature, it wouldn't let you be free unless you train it to let you be free over the period of time.

Due to the very same reason, being good in general is hard.

It is really hard to be good to people day in and day out, when you know they are not being good to you.

Its is really hard to stick to your principles, when everything feels unfavorable.

It is really really hard to be a good human, when there are a few examples to follow.

It is really hard, frustrating and tiring to keep being good.

But again,

Life is hard, and you can't have it any other way. 

Just hang on for a while, The things will change.
Your goodness will be answered, and your value will be recognized.

till then,

Live Laugh Love💓


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